Stress is a natural part of life. An upcoming deadline, a tense conversation, or even the nagging feeling that you may have forgotten something can trigger stress responses in your body. In small doses, stress helps us stay alert and prepared. However, when stress becomes constant or accumulates over time, it can negatively affect both our physical and mental health.
Our nervous system does not only help us cope with stress; it also plays a central role in our sense of calm, balance, and safety in the world. When the nervous system is well regulated, we tend to feel grounded, capable, and in control. When it is out of balance, we may feel anxious, exhausted, or stuck in a constant survival mode. The good news is that the nervous system is adaptable – it can be gently trained to return to calm and balance.
What Is the Autonomic Nervous System and How Does It Work?
The nervous system functions like the body’s control center. It regulates everything from heart rate and digestion to emotions and movement. A key part of this system is the autonomic nervous system, which plays a crucial role in emotional regulation. It has two main branches:
The Sympathetic Nervous System
This system becomes active when the brain detects danger. It initiates the “fight or flight” response. Signs of activation include a racing heart, sweaty palms, and muscle tension. The body prepares itself to respond to a perceived threat.
The Parasympathetic Nervous System
This system becomes active when the brain senses safety and rest. It supports calming, relaxation, recovery, and healing.
Balance between these two systems is essential. When they work in harmony, stress hormones are regulated and we feel more stable and in control. If the sympathetic system is overly active, anxiety increases. If the parasympathetic system dominates too strongly, energy and motivation can drop.
Why Breathing Exercises Help
This article focuses mainly on breathing exercises because slow, controlled breathing is one of the fastest ways to send a “you are safe” signal to the body. Deep and steady breathing activates the parasympathetic nervous system, slows the heart rate, and reduces excessive alertness in the brain.
Research shows that immediately after controlled breathing exercises, activity in the amygdala (the brain’s alarm center) decreases, while areas involved in emotional regulation and decision-making – such as the prefrontal cortex, anterior cingulate cortex, and insula – become more active. In simple terms, even a basic breathing practice can help calm the brain’s alarm system and strengthen the brain’s regulatory systems.
In the following sections, you will find different breathing and regulation techniques that support this process in slightly different ways.
This technique helps restore a sense of balance and control by calming both the mind and body.
How to practice:
Inhale for 4 seconds
Hold for 4 seconds
Exhale for 4 seconds
Hold again for 4 seconds
Repeat a few cycles.
This is a natural reset breath that helps the nervous system calm down quickly.
How to practice:
Inhale through the nose (halfway)
Take a short second inhale
Slowly exhale fully through the mouth
Repeat 2–3 times.
Walking, dancing, or practicing yoga can help reduce stress and release tension that builds up in the muscles. Choose the type of movement you enjoy most; what matters is moving regularly.
If possible, you may prefer slower-paced forms of exercise. For example, outdoor walking or light jogging instead of high-intensity strength training.
Stress often accumulates in the neck, shoulders, and feet.
How to practice:
Gently massage tense areas
Or wrap your arms around yourself for a few slow breaths
This supports both relaxation and a sense of safety.
A grounding technique using gentle tapping on specific body points.
How to practice:
Tap gently with your fingertips on these areas:
Side of the hand
Eyebrow
Under the nose
Chin
While tapping, repeat a calming phrase (e.g., “I am letting go of my stress.”)
Tap each point 5–7 times while breathing slowly
You will usually feel calmer within a short time.
Please find a demonstration video here.
Natural sensory input helps regulate the nervous system.
Examples:
Walking barefoot on grass or soil
Touching soil with your hands
Listening to soft water sounds
Playing gently with water
This helps reduce anxiety by redirecting attention to the external world.
How to practice:
Look around and find:
3 blue objects
2 red objects
You can continue with other colors
This brings your mind back to the “here and now.”
These help interrupt anxious thought loops.
Examples:
Count backwards from 100 by 7
Describe your environment in detail as if explaining it to someone who has never been there
This activates the parasympathetic nervous system and supports deep calming.
How to practice:
Sit or lie down comfortably
Place one hand on your chest and one on your belly
Inhale slowly into your belly (chest stays mostly still)
Exhale slowly and fully, gently drawing the belly inward
Suggested rhythm:
Inhale for 4 seconds
Exhale for 6–8 seconds
Listening to music, singing, or even writing music can strongly calm the nervous system and activate the parasympathetic response.
This is very effective for anxiety and panic.
How to practice:
Name 5 things you can see
Notice 4 things you can touch
Listen for 3 sounds you can hear
Identify 2 scents you can smell
Recall 1 taste (something you recently ate or enjoy)
Extra sensory support:
Sour candy
Smelling essential oils
These help bring the body back into the present moment.
Stimulating the vagus nerve helps “reset” the nervous system and activate calm.
a) Humming
How to practice:
b) Cold Water on the Face
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c) Gentle Neck Touch
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d) Ice on the Chest or Neck
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